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Wednesday, January 2nd, 2019
3:42 am

Slmz, hey

Indian, 26yrs old, Muslim woman living in South Africa. 

I've only recently realized my sexual orientation, still unsure if I'm bisexual or a lesbian. Looking to make friends.

Kik: undiscovered6

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2015
1:43 am
Struggling :) but not alone
maybe we all have diffrent stories
we have a diffrent culture, diffrent country and diffrent personalities but we all know that we are what we are

i have through hard time to be able to accept myself for who iam
a lot of tears, struggles, fear even madness
and i believe, there is a time in our lifetime, we questioning about this situation to our Rabb
sometimes it must be so desperated to know the answer.

like.. life itself hard to cope with and now, our sexual orientation pressing us even more
but you know.. i dont know myself yet why am i like this
maybe how my family raise me, or how school teach me, how society influence me or.. maybe it just me.

i think a lot of us just wanna share our deepest secret without a single judge
but its just naive isnt? to want people to accept us when we cant fully accept ourself.
at least that what i feel.

i accpet for who iam, but also as muslim i cant close my eyes and say this is wrong and this is right
my ability to decide whats wrong and whats right seem unclear now
because somehow i know who i am, and i know i capable to do whatever i wanna do
like falling in love with someone. to a girl , to feel somthing that have a sexuality urges along
but somehow i know for sure that it is zina.
thats not an argument, that a fact, a reality that certainly explain in Quran
and i just cant figure out, how could all of this make sense.
how could my life make sense.
this is like a game without gameover.

we all life in fear, we all life with guilty, we all life with lies. we all life in loneliness.
so.. whoever, out there
who need someone to talk to, who need someone to listen to them without a single judge
i just wanna know that im here
because im lonely too, bc im struggling too, bc im trying to have better life too.
so feel free to email me : emma.queer@gmail.com
or KIK me : lovabuzz

Salaam, Emma
Friday, March 1st, 2013
1:15 pm
New Member Post
AsSalaam Alaikum,

I am extremely excited that this community exists. In exploring the community I discovered that sadly it has been a while since anyone posted here. InShaAllah, this community will be revived soon.

I have known I'm a lesbian since I was 12 years old. I was raised in an extremely conservative Southern Baptist Christian environment. Growing up I always struggled with my faith. I struggled to reconcile my sexuality with the negativity associated with it in the Bible. I struggled with the aspects of my religion that didn't make sense to me. I walked away from religion for a number of years. I focused on the spiritual aspect of faith, and I focused on keeping God in my life without the rules of religion. In late 2010 and most of 2011 I began to feel the pull to align myself with religion again. During this time I researched all religions and studied everything I could. After intense study I finally decided that Islam was my home. By the grace of Allah, I took my Shahada in July 2011.

Since then I have gained an appreciation for the amazing community that exists within the Islamic faith. I have been fortunate enough to meet some of the most wonderful people. I have encountered many people who have strengthened my iman. Yet I have also encountered people within our deen who have told me that being a lesbian is zina, and Allah will surely send me to Hell Fire if I don't walk away from it.

I believe the Qur'an when it tells us that Allah is the Lord of the worlds. I believe that Allah has a magnificent imagination that is evident in every aspect of our lives. I believe that His imagination brought us the world of Earth as much as it brought us the worlds of Jupiter, Neptune etc. I believe too that within our own Earthly world that there exists heterosexuality and homosexuality; and both were created by His grand design. I honestly don't believe that homosexuality is a sin.

I honestly don't know any other LGBT Muslims. The Imam at my local mosque encouraged me not to tell any of the sisters within our masjid that I'm a lesbian. He felt that they wouldn't take it well. So immediately my mosque became a place where I couldn't be myself. When I'm there I will always have to hide a part of who I am. I think that's sad.

My main hope at this point in my religious walk is to find other LGBT Muslims. I want to connect with people I can truly relate to. I am single right now, but I hope that soon I will find a relationship with another lesbian Muslim. I don't expect this community to help me find a date, although I would be grateful if a real life relationship did develop. I really want to connect with other people and not feel like such an outsider within my own religion.


Current Mood: hopeful
Tuesday, May 29th, 2012
11:48 am
Research opportunity for lesbian and bisexual women
Hi! If you are a lesbian or bisexual women between 18 and 25 years of age,then I invite you to participate in a research opportunity aimed at assessing the health and wellness of sexual minority women. This study is completely confidential and none of your responses can be linked to your identity. Participants who complete this survey will be eligible to be entered into a raffle for one of four $25.00 Amazon.com gift cards. Thank you for your time and please share with others!

Here is the survey link: http://bit.ly/ODULGBT

Please contact me if you have any questions about this research at tmaso008@odu.edu.
Sunday, January 24th, 2010
9:21 pm
Monday, August 3rd, 2009
1:28 am
[Worcester MA]: Don't Miss The 6th Transcending Boundaries Conference (TBC6)
This is it!!! We've got the dates. We've got the locations. Now all we need it you!!

November 20th thru 22nd 2009 - Celebrating the Spectrum of Sexuality, Gender and SexCollapse )

yes, please DO X-Post

Current Mood: excited
Thursday, April 9th, 2009
2:40 pm
Brand New ! :D - Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans, UK MUSLIM ONLINE SOCIAL GROUP!


We've set up a brand new social and help support site - for LGBT Muslims, we'll soon host events. We are fresh, new and we host for different types of LGBT Muslims, this is a fully functional interactive site - with chat and forums. We're growing bigger every day.

We have a board just for trans, and gays and lesbians as well as an MOC board (disclaimer: Al-Jannah does not condone MOC)

Our FORUMS is currently active and we have a FREE live chat, NO registration required, just a nickname. Totally anonymous and secure.

Click the picture for a bigger view!


See you guys there ;)

Tuesday, March 31st, 2009
1:45 pm
[USA] Is YOUR bi/pan/fluid Community Group among the missing?
BiNet USA is looking for ALL bi/pan/fluid groups in the US so that everyone will have a convenient place to find community.

If you know of such a group, could you please take a minute to check your state's listing and make sure it has been included?Collapse )

yes, please DO X-Post this

Current Mood: working
Thursday, March 12th, 2009
12:59 am
Calling all queers in Malaysia!
(Mods, please delete if this post breaks any community rules)

Hi everyone. I have just created a community for GLBTQ Malaysians and am looking for users who would like to join. The community is called 
queermalaysians. All are welcome. =)

Also, to the mods, may I link your community in
queermalaysians' profile page?


Crossposted in many communities on LJ.

Current Mood: chipper
Sunday, February 1st, 2009
5:46 pm
Jóhanna Sigurðardóttir -- the first openly gay leader of a country
Jóhanna Sigurðardóttir is the world's first lesbian to become a head of government. Frickin awesome. :)

First gay PM for Iceland cabinet

Iceland has announced a new government that will be headed by the modern world's first openly gay leader.

Johanna Sigurdardottir was named new prime minister by the country's coalition political parties.
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Current Mood: jubilant
Sunday, January 25th, 2009
9:19 pm
join Nur--NYC based queer Muslim study group
***please forward to any you think will be interested***


Please join us and other queer Muslims in the NYC area interested in
studying progressive interpretations of the Qur'an and the Hadith.
Nur is a new, small, non-judgmental, feminist oriented, trans-friendly
group, welcoming of all LGBTQGNC people who are Muslims, former Muslims, or
interested in converting to Islam. The group will be using English
texts. We are planning to meet once a month beginning in January.

For more information, including the date and location of our meetings,
please write to nur.queer@gmail.com and tell us a little about
yourself, including your name, your relationship to LGBTQGNC
communities and Muslim communities, and why you're interested in
joining the group. We ask for everyone's support in helping to make
this as safe a space as possible, which includes respecting the need
for confidentiality for many of those who may participate in our

For our first meeting, the reading will be Qur'anic Hermeneutics and
Women's Liberation, a talk given by Asma Barlas available here:
http://www.asmabarlas.com/TALKS/Barcelona.pdf. We invite all those
who plan to attend to read the article ahead of time and bring your

In solidarity,
Nadia and Gabriel
6:58 pm
Thursday, November 13th, 2008
4:46 pm
Thursday, October 30th, 2008
3:39 am
Notes from the panel discussion on Islam and Homosexuality
Panel Discussion on Islam & Homosexuality: Muslim Perspectives.
Held at George Washington University, October 26, 2008

I apologize these notes are so sketchy a summary of what was said. Check the site http://www.islamandhomosexuality.com/ -- they're promising to have an audio recording of part of the event uploaded to the site soon.

1. Dr. Amal Amireh spoke about the exploitation of the gay rights issue by those with an Islamophobic agenda. She said the M-word has replaced the N-word. The issue of sexuality leads to the discourse of difference: The use of gay Muslims not for the sake of the gay people themselves but in order to bash Islam. It is used like the "oppressed Muslim woman" has long been used to attack Islam, when in fact the condescending Orientalist discourse that exploits this issue doesn't care about women.

Dr. Amal also criticized the denial of homosexuality in the Muslim world, the claims that gayness/feminism/human rights are a western invention. The existence of groups like al-Fatiha Foundation, Aswat, Helem, and Meem proves that LGBT Muslims really exist. They insist on both Muslim and queer identity, and refuse to choose just one. They are attacked as "native informants," i.e. inauthentic Arabs/Muslims. The politics of denial allows for the politics of homophobia, so that gays are subject to attacks. Dr. Amal stressed that this is not a Muslim monopoly: homophobia is global.

She concluded that we can be against homophobia without bombing the Muslim countries; to be against Islamophobia without the politics of denial of gays.

2. Imam Daayiee Abdullah stated that although gays are not specifically mentioned in the Qur'an, it does address them when it says "O mankind" and "O believers." The Qur'an allows for men who have no desire for women, and in verse 24:60, women who have no desire for men.

About the homophobia found in the hadiths, Imam Daayiee said: The hadiths are stories used as an educating tool. This does not mean that they are historically factual. They help the Muslims to understand things; they are not rules to follow, or to harm people. As for hadiths saying to kill gays, Imam Daayiee said historically the hadiths have been used for politics: If you don't like somebody, find out how to get rid of them.

His advice is: Read the words of the Lut story in the Qur'an literally. The people condemned in that story are heterosexual men who used homosexual acts to rape. Sexual acts depend on the circumstances, e.g. halal nikah vs. haram. On the question of reproduction: It does not mean that every man and woman is able to procreate. Do you restrict all people who are unable to procreate from enjoying sex?

In the Shari`ah: Imam Daayiee recommended the work of Professor Khaled Abou El Fadl who says in his study of "The Authoritative and Authoritarian in Islamic Discourses" that people look to the Qur'an and Sunnah as authorities for law. When the text is read by human minds, people become authoritarian by not filtering out their own biases. There is no punishment for homosexuality given in the Qur'an. So scholars thought it was like heterosexual "zina." Heterosexuals always have a loophole to get out of punishment for zina. But for gays there's no legal loophole. The scholars have not provided an adequate account for gays, including nikah.

As for social structures, repression of homosexuality destroys marriages because people are forced into unwanted marriages. This leads to honor killings. The jurists apply ta`zir punishments because they cannot find any punishment in the Qur'an. As for the argument that Allah created mankind in "pairs," which is interpreted to mean heterosexual pairs, actually when twins are created they might be fraternal twins, male and female, or identical twins, two males or two females.

Imam Daayiee concluded that Muslims have the right to believe, to have a relationship with Allah, to seek justice--not "just us," and to articulate who we are and why we love the way we do.

3. Hisham Mahmoud presented a very anti-gay position. He began by reciting a Qur'an verse in Arabic and then joked with the audience that he had just cast a magic spell on them. (WTF?) He showed a PowerPoint display that listed homosexuality alongside "pedophilia," "rape," and "bestiality" as examples of haram sex. Even so, he admitted that all the hadiths about killing gays have been proven weak and cannot be used to legislate. Since there is no Qur'an text specifying punishment, no valid hadiths on the subject, the punishment has been left to the discretion of judges (ta`zir).

Hisham claimed that the Qur'an verses 4:15-16 are about punishing lesbians and gays. He said that verse 4:15 mentions "women who are guilty of lewdness" using the feminine plural relative pronoun "allati" while 4:16 refers to "two men who are guilty of it," using the masculine dual pronoun "alladhani." He interpreted verse 15 as talking about lesbians, and based on that interpretation, he interpreted the following verse to mean gay men. I wrote my criticism of this on a card to hand to the panel afterwards, but there was no time for questions because Imam Johari ran way over the time limit, so I'll post it here:

Verse 4:15 actually says nothing about lesbians; there is no basis in the text for interpreting it this way. In fact, in Arabic grammar the *plural* pronoun means three or more women, so it *cannot* refer to a lesbian couple. Therefore his interpretation of the masculine dual as "gay men," which depends on his interpretation of verse 15, also falls down. The text itself simply does not support any reading specific to homosexuality, so these claims are specious.

4. Imam Johari Abdul Malik spoke of his involvement with treatment and prevention of HIV/AIDS in the African-American community. He said that the stigma of AIDS as a "gay" disease prevents Muslims from seeking treatment and receiving help, which worsens the incidence of AIDS. He stated that "homophobia is not Islamic." But then he talked at length about how pork tastes so sweet even though it's haram. As though we're just meat.

Imam Johari's main point was that the purpose of humanity is to serve our Rabb in the correct way. He spent a long time playing a guessing game with the audience about what would be the first thing you say to the Martians when they land. His point was that we first have to establish the fact that we worship and serve our Rabb. He believes this correct way to include that marriage is only between a man and a woman. (Being Muslim, I noticed he did not say the usual phrase "one man and one woman.") Johari went on talking for more than double the time allotted to each speaker, which used up most of the time for questions.

5. At question time, someone asked Dr. Amal about journalists' emphasis on the Islamic identity of gay bashers in recent news here in Washington DC. They beat up a couple gays saying "In our country you would be killed." Dr. Amal said the focus on Islam here was unfair because most religions have homophobia, and everyone should condemn these attacks without slipping into Islam-bashing.

Hisham was very defensive about being considered homophobic, and protested that just because he said homosexuality is a sin and should be punished, that doesn't mean he's homophobic. This reminded me of a documentary about the Ku Klux Klan I once saw: they had some Grand Dragon wearing Klan robes saying "We don't hate the Negro! We just think he should stay in his place!" Yeah, the haters will always redefine their hatred to claim that it isn't hatred. They aren't fooling anyone except maybe themselves. Hisham attacked the practice of "coming out" by saying the "veil of Allah" allows gays to conceal their sinful homosexual identity from the people. To me, the obvious problem with this is the heteronormative presumption that being gay is automatically sinful and shameful, which is the whole problem to begin with.

Imam Johari was asked about separation of church and state, and whether he favored a constitutional amendment outlawing same-sex marriage. He answered that the First Amendment protects freedom of religion and rules out the establishment of a state religion, which allows us Muslims to practice our religion freely, therefore religious rules must not become American law, so he was fine with other people having same-sex marriages as long as they don't force him to do so. He got applause for this.

During the closing remarks, Hisham took the final word. He started reading from his PowerPoint notes and again associated homosexuality with "pedophilia," "rape," etc. At this, Imam Daayiee became righteously exasperated and burst out against the unfairness: The problem is, they always make this a test of the gays, but do not apply the same test to heterosexuals; they establish heteronormativity versus the diversity of Allah's creation. His protest against the constant unfairness in Islamic discourse won the biggest applause and cheers of the entire evening.

Monday, October 27th, 2008
2:51 pm
Sunday, October 5th, 2008
7:05 pm
Tuesday, September 30th, 2008
11:47 pm
For everyone to hopefully complete
Please do this, I want to see what LGBTQI Muslims would like to see as far as programming geared toward them. This will help me in a class project where I am actually creating a program for LGBTQI Muslims and their SOFFAs.

Click here for the survey!

Thank you, this is very important to me and any feedback is extremely valuable.
Sunday, September 21st, 2008
5:17 pm
Thursday, September 4th, 2008
5:37 pm
For all my Queer Muslim Brothers and Sisters
I have been in contact with Najma Adam from Northern Illinois University and she is trying to do research on the needs of LGBT Muslims. She has only done four interviews, including mine, and she hopes to do at least fifteen. So far all of the people that were born Muslim have not been comfortable enough sharing that part of themselves with her (though it is completely anonymous).

If any of you folks wish to help and let her know about your life as a Queer Muslim then she would (and I would, because I want to read more research done about LGBT Muslims) really appreciate your input.

Contact information is hereCollapse )

x-posted to various groups
Wednesday, August 13th, 2008
1:03 pm
Keith Ellison is Proud to be Named Vice-Chair of Bipartisan Congressional LGBT Equality Caucus
“I am proud to join Congresswoman Tammy Baldwin (D-WI) and Congressman Barney Frank (D-MA) today in launching the Congressional LGBT Equality Caucus,” Congressman Ellison said.

The mission of the Caucus is to promote lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) equality. The Caucus will work toward extending equal rights, repealing discriminatory laws, the eliminating hate-motivated violence. The Caucus is dedicated to the improved health and well-being for all, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression.

“I am honored to join this caucus because of my lifelong commitment to fighting all discrimination. I believe when my gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender neighbor suffers from discrimination, then I suffer, and so does our whole community. Every member of our society contributes to the health, wealth and generosity of our community. Only when we recognize, protect, and, celebrate that will we realize all our citizens’ potential,” Ellison concluded.
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